Taking Care of Yourself and Moving On After a Breakup

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Breakups affect everyone—those who are married and those who are unmarried, those who have been together for ten years and those who have only been dating for six months. So if your breakup is affecting you, remember that you're not alone. There are many people around you who feel the same way.

Not everyone may feel equally comfortable expressing how they feel after a breakup; they might keep their emotions bottled up inside. This doesn't mean that they don't feel anything. They might be letting their emotions out when they are alone.

It's normal and necessary to grieve after a breakup. But at some point, you need to make a decision to move on. Here are some tips to help you do so:

Self Care                                   

One of the most important things you need to do after a breakup, which will enable you to move on, is to care for yourself. Be good to yourself in any way possible. For some people, self-care might take the form of reading a mystery novel or doing yoga. For others, a spa day or just a manicure will do the trick. You probably know what makes you feel good. So do that.

But remember to also take care of your health by eating well and exercising. Make an effort to dress well too as this will help you to feel more confident when you're ready to start dating gain. Keep your home clean and tidy. These are all really basic things but a lot of people tend to ignore them when they are feeling depressed after a breakup.

Dating

At some point, you're going to feel ready to start dating again. Don't rely on meeting people by chance. It's true that a lot of people meet their spouses at work or at school. However, you may not be in school anymore. And there may not be anyone interesting for you to date at work.

So don't be afraid to go online and set up a profile at a dating website or on an app. Be very clear in your self-description about what you are looking for so that you're not inundated with "likes" and "superlikes" from people who are looking for something different from you. For example, if you're looking for a long-term relationship, you should say so. On the other hand, if you're just looking to socialize and meet new people, you can state that as well.

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